There are only two ways to live your life. One is monkish life which is dismantle all your desires and lead a peaceful life. Another one is dedicating your life to achieve something. You’re having your passions and interest. Through work, convert those passions into achievements. It’s a journey to your lovable destination.
But, Barriers comes on the way. It’s painful and stressful one. One of the main things is people’s mouth. What I mean by this? Yes, it’s criticism. It puts you down. It’s hard to bear. It makes you cry. It makes you doubting yourself. Your focused mind becomes distracted mind. Distracted mind tear your dreams.
First of all, you should separate what’s in your control and what’s not in your control. In that sense, people’s brain and tongue is not in your control. So, don’t think about it and focus on your journey. It’s that simple.
Train yourself to develop the mindset that leads you to path of success rather than distracting yourself.
From Marcus Aurelius,
“When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself: The people I deal with today will be meddling, ungrateful, arrogant, dishonest, jealous and surly. They are like this because they can’t tell good from evil. But I have seen the beauty of good, and the ugliness of evil, and have recognized that the wrongdoer have a nature related to my own – not of the same blood or birth, but the same mud, and possessing a share of the divine. And so none of them can hurt me. No one can implicate me in ugliness. Nor I can feel angry at my relative or hate him. We were born together like feet, hand and eyes like the two rows of teeth, upper and lower. To obstruct each other is unnatural. To feel anger at someone, to turn your back on him; these are obstructions”.
Criticism is acts like a fuel for your improvement. If someone says, you’re not eligible for that turn that into fuel to learning and practicing. But, be more rational rather than emotional. Think through the criticism and discard the ones which is purely sucks.
Criticism is just one of the obstruction elements. Don’t expect just flowers on your path, there is also a thorns. The thing is you should be courage and persistent.
“I have been dragged through a whole life full of crosses and tortures, I have seen the nearest and dearest die, almost of starvation; I have been ridiculed, distrusted, and have suffered for my sympathy for the very men who scoff and scorn. Well, my boy, this is the school of misery, which is the school for great souls and prophets” – Swami Vivekananda