10 Things to Learn From Ajithkumar
Most people living based on trial and error formula. If you want to learn everything by yourself, you need two life or more than that. So, if you start absorbing the wisdom of others, you can live your life with less errors. Chanakya says, “Learn from the mistake of others you can’t live long enough to make them all yourselves”
Today, We’re going to learn from Ajithkumar. His fans fondly call him as “Thala”. He faces lot of struggles in his life. But, he’s not give up. His self confidence is always high. I’m admires him lot because I’m also one of the fan of him.
1: Beware of Success
“Success is like a wild horse. If you do not know how to handle it, it will throw you off and look for another rider who can handle it well”
When you succeed, be happy but don’t fell into that. Self control is an important one. It is more important when you got success also when failure. Accept others compliments. You feel good when you hear those compliments. But, it is have the ability to makes you blind.
That makes you thinking you’re the great in this world. And, you begin to ignore other people and your own mistakes. “The Strongest Poison ever known”, the poet William Blake wrote, “came from Caesar’s Laurel Crown”. Success becomes poison when you don’t know how to handle it
Ajithkumar puts it very well,
“Success is very intoxicating. It is very difficult to handle all the fame and adulation. It corrupts you. You start to believe that everybody around you is in awe of you, that everybody wants you, and that everybody is thinking of you all the time”
It’s nice one, right.
2: Focus On Productivity
“I believe life is a gift, and I want to live it productively. I am not into this number game”
You should produce more things in your life. He facing a lot of competition in his field but he focus on being productive. He said, “I am not in competition with anybody; I just want to be productive”. Focus on produce more quality things at your work. It upgrades your life.
Don’t talk too much. If you see Ajithkumar you find that he is more silent and humble. Ryan holiday says, The only relationship between work and chatter is that one kills the other. So, don’t talk too much and focus on your work.
There is another category of people who always wanting something rather that working on. Ryan holiday emphasize, The world is after all, indifferent to what we humans “want”. If we persist in wanting, in needing, we are simply setting ourselves up for resentment or worse. Doing the work is enough.
Ajithkumar said, I was always focused on what was given to me. Yes, I was conscious of what was happening around me, but I tried to say focused on my work and the responsibilities connected with my work.
3: Mix of Good and Bad makes you Better Person
“I have made good decisions, bad decisions; done good films, bad films. I’ve met some wonderful people and been through some very traumatic experiences but I guess that’s what’s made me the person that I am today
Of course, we experience both things. We experience tremendous happiness also tremendous sadness. If you expect the goodness every time that means you allow the badness every time. The moment you expect something, you should prepared to the future because tomorrow is not same as today. Remember, Change is constant.
If you experience misery, don’t worry it refines you. You learn so much and you become stronger than before. This is what Seneca said, “A gem cannot be polished without friction, nor a man without trials”.
Vivekananda puts it nicely, “I have been dragged through a whole life full of crosses and tortures, I have seen the nearest and dearest die, almost of starvation; I have been ridiculed, distrusted, and have suffered for my sympathy for the very men who scoff and scorn. Well, my boy, this is the school of misery, which is also the school for great souls and prophets”.
Life contains both successes and failures. Ajithkumar brings new perspective on life, “Life is not only about being successful. Life is about experiencing, faltering, falling down and then getting up and moving ahead till you meet the next hurdle, again falling and getting up… I am never afraid of failure. Nobody should be scared of life. Why I say is, failure teaches us more about life than success”.
4: Be Confident not Arrogant
Interviewer asks, Are you egoistic?. He responded as follows,
No, no. I would say, I was fiercely independent. There is a very thin line between confidence and arrogance. I was very confident which was misconstrued as arrogance most of the time.
If you believe in your talents, that translates into confidence. If you believe that you’re the talented person than everyone in this world, you become arrogant and egoistic. Believe in yourself, believe in your talents.
5: Fight, Fight, Fight
Ajithkumar, describes him as follows
I was always a gutsy person. I had always been a fighter in life. I never got anything on a platter; I had to fight for everything in life, even when I was working, racing and acting in films
The fighter is wins all the time. Be a fighter. Don’t quit when you’re chasing your dreams. Failure comes, but fight. In Rich Dad and Poor Dad, “Life pushes all of us around. Some give up. Others fight. A few learn the lesson and move on. They welcome life pushing them around. To these few people, it means they need and want to learn something. They learn and move on. Most quit, and few like to fight”.
6: Greatness Begins with Dream
Aren’t we all dreamers ? It’s only because man dreamt of flying that we are travelling in planes. Behind all inventions, we see the dreams of people. I am glad that mankind on the whole are dreamers.
Dream translates into thoughts and thought translates into things. But, It doesn’t work without work. If you just dreaming then you’re living an utopian life. If you want real time achievements, then you should work.
Bear Grylls said, “All men dream, but not equally. Those who dream by night in the dusty recess of their minds wake in the day to find it was vanity: but the dreamers of the day are dangerous man, for they may act their dreams with open eyes to make it possible. The key thing here is you should work to get there.
But, don’t stop dreaming, it energizes you. It also motivates you to work. Stop chasing shits and start chase your dreams.
7: Try New Things
Some people are scared to try new things for fear of not succeeding. They think, what if I do not succeed… That thought, I think is the biggest stumbling block one can put for one self. Life is not only about what you achieve but about what you learn in the process. You may have achieved so much in life but may not have learnt anything.
There is so much to learn in your life. Be open to new opportunities. Experiment new things. Focus on your current work. But, be the experimenter because it gives you new insights. On that process, you learn more things.
8: Happiness is to be Content
Happiness is to be content with what we have and accept what is given to you by life.
Contentment is the first sign of happiness. There is a time for everything in life.
The root problem behind unhappiness is when you constantly want to accumulate, accumulate and accumulate.
9: Understanding your abilities is important than ambition
There has to be a relation between ambition and your abilities. You try to understand your shortcomings and try to achieve something that is within your abilities and limits. Most Importantly, you need to be aware of what your abilities are.
Of course, what I was ambitious about at 20 is totally different from what I want today. After 40, you start looking at life differently.
At 41, you feel life is not just about ambitions; it is much more than that. That is how I look at life at now. My ambition is to sustain what I have achieved till the end and inculcate it in my child
10: Just Live in the moment:
I believe there is so much fighting and violence in this world because mankind believes that it is going to live forever. But we don’t know what is there is for us tomorrow. So, why don’t we forget all the enmity and live this moment and not step on anyone’s toes ?
I have seen some of my friends who were terminally ill appreciate life and live a better quality of life. They were so content with their life and so much more concerned about people. It is from them that I learnt this lesson.
I just want to live for the moment because we are not going to last forever. Acting in films or films becoming hits or making money are not important in front of living a contented life where all of us love each other